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1. Treat her right!
It's a fact - women are programmed to want and enjoy
sex more when they feel loved and treasured.
How?
It really is the thought that counts. Take an
interest
- ask her about her day, her friends, her hopes and
dreams; everything that matters to her. Take the time
- try brushing her hair in the morning, do her
ironing, help her out whether she's looking tired or
not. And don't forget to take a romantic view - kiss
her on street corners, save the best chocolates for
her and plan a weekend away somewhere or talk about
your future together. Whatever you do, don't ask for
sex as a reward for being caring. Be caring because
you love her and it will bring its own rewards.
2. Give her time
Women love orgasms too (you know this), so if she
finds it difficult to reach a climax, just take the
pressure off and she'll respond in a big way.
How?
Let her know (or just feel) that it doesn't
matter how
quickly she comes, or whether she comes at all -
you're just going to touch, play, stroke and tease her
all she wants. It's simple and it works. Although you
may want her to come as fast as she can, remember it's
her orgasm and it doesn't just happen to make you feel
good. Female orgasms are very complex and, on average
take longer than male orgasm in penetrative sex. Some
women rarely or never reach orgasm, but still enjoy
sex; others can only climax after lots and lots of
time and attention. Female orgasms need a very relaxed
frame of mind and the deepest and most intense ones
are reached slowly. No-one can give another an orgasm
but one can help.
3. Buy her some sex toys
You may not know this, but women generally enjoy sex
toys more than men.
How?
From vibrators to dildos, cock rings to love
balls,
sex toys are mostly designed with a woman's pleasure
in mind. If she's a liberated woman, she may already
have her own vibrator, but she could push her
boundaries further with a two-headed version - either
one that works on both the vagina and clitoris, or one
that can stimulate the vagina and anus simultaneously.
4. Be a slave for a day
Offer to do everything she wants for 24 hours. OK, so
this one's definitely coming from a woman's
perspective - but that's the point!
How?
Don't expect her to order you to strip and perform
oral sex immediately, as she may want you to finish
the washing up first. Once that's out of the way,
respond to all her commands (within the bounds of wild
erotic reason). Hours of sexual slavery should do you
both the world of good and, what's more, giving her
total control means that you'll probably discover lots
of new and exciting things about her.
5. Porn for girls
Lots of women would love porn or erotica if only it
was designed with them in mind. Some love the same
pictures, readings or videos as men do. Find out what
your lover likes and have fun.
How?
Track down some truly erotic offerings, draw
the
curtains and lower the lights. Don't just stick to
videos, although these days there are lots more around
to appeal to the fairer sex. (They're not all
buttercups and bathtubs, but they do pay more
attention to background and the music isn't as bad.)
The Lovers' Guide videos could be a good place to
start. They are quite erotic, although they are not
pornography in the sense of simply being there for
sexual arousal, and are open and not gender-specific.
Some great poetry is truly sensational and classic
erotic literature can be as good as it gets. Put on
some music with a sexual theme.
6. Get fit
Mental attitude is possibly the single most important
factor in great sex, so you need to feel good about
yourself to be a better lover. Getting fit will also
help you enjoy the physical side of sex more.
How?
What you're aiming for is stamina (try swimming),
a
good body (all-round gym) and flexibility for those
advanced positions (try yoga, which is great for
control too). Don't get obsessive, as this is a big
turn-off, but whatever your body shape, make yourself
feel as good as possible and it should do wonders for
your self esteem. You might also want to invite her
into your post-exercise shower and share some fun
7. Get into oral sex
Most women love receiving oral sex, and the only thing
that can reduce their pleasure is if they think their
partner isn't enjoying giving it. If you start showing
how much you love it, she'll probably get a lot more
pleasure too. However, if you do feel uncomfortable
about this (or any aspect of sex) don't feel you have
to take part - just say what you prefer instead and
focus on what you do enjoy.
How?
If you already enjoy giving oral sex - great.
All you
need to do is to develop your technique with some new
tricks. One great tip is that gently sucking the
clitoris as well as licking it can produce some
sensational feelings. Remember, speed and lightness of
touch can be more arousing than heftily slurping away.
Try some new positions too, such as kneeling down in
front of her while she's seated or her kneeling over
you. Ask her what she prefers. If you find giving oral
sex a bit of a chore, and only do it when she wants
you to, try to make it as much of a treat for yourself
as it is for her. Eating or licking food off her can
increase enjoyment for both of you. Try chocolate body
paint, ice cream, honey or whatever you love. Whatever
you choose, spread it over her thighs and stomach as
well and work your way slowly towards driving her wild
