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1.New orgasm tricks
Expand your orgasm horizons on your own, and you'll
soon be able to bring new peaks of enjoyment to your
lovemaking.
How?
Get to know your body better than ever before.
Explore
your erogenous zones - while you're relaxing in the
bath is a good time. Fantasise frequently and
experiment freely. Try new ways of bringing yourself
to orgasm, such as different positions, using a
vibrator, (not in the bath), or massaging yourself
with oils. Check out new ways of stimulating yourself.
Find your G-spot and, if you want to, you could even
explore anal stimulation. Experiment with different
places and different times too and you'll soon have a
whole repertoire of orgasmic tricks to explore with
your lover.
2. An element of surprise
The idea of this is to take your sexual relationship
back to the early stages when every time you touched
was electrifying and discovering each other's turn-ons
was part of your exciting discovery of each other.
How?
Do something to make your lover sit up and take
notice. If you normally let him do most of the
running, take control in a big way. If you're a crisp,
white cotton underwear girl, try something daring in
black, or vice versa. Put on something you know he'll
love (try a clingy see-through dress; a coat, sexy
shoes and very little else, or sexy underwear under
your work clothes) and surprise him at home or, even
better, book a night in a hotel and devote hours and
hours to sex. Think creative and be different.
3.Anticipation
Build up his anticipation of what's coming up, and you
can drive him wild with desire before you even get
started.
How?
Before he goes work, tell him that this evening
is
going to be one to remember. Phone him during the day
and tell him what you're planning (make sure he's not
with his boss at the time!). Send him e-mails where
the e stands for erotic. Get yourself in the mood by
wearing your best underwear all day or going out
shopping for a special treat. Give yourself plenty of
time to get ready before he arrives and help the
evening more than live up to his (and your)
expectations.
4.Make him feel good
His self-confidence and sexual prowess are linked, so
the better he feels about himself, the more fun you'll
both have.
How?
Telling your man how good / stunning / exciting
/
'big' he is will do wonders for your sex life.
Remember when you met and all you could think about
were how beautiful his eyes were, how fascinating his
personality seemed, and how all you wanted to do was
wrap your arms around him. Recapture the feeling and
go to town a bit. Praise his techniques, his physique,
and just about anything else you love him for. It's
almost certain to improve your sex life in just a few
weeks.
5.Show off
Men are voyeuristic by instinct, so a sure way to
arouse him is to let him catch glimpses of something
he thinks he shouldn't be seeing.
How?
Even if you've been together for ages, an
'accidentally' open button, a glimpse of a stocking
top or the top of a bare thigh are all tried and
tested ways to set his pulse racing. If you're feeling
daring, take off your underwear (make sure they're
your best ones) while you're out somewhere and hand
them to him discreetly. He'll find it difficult to
keep his hands on top of the table for the rest of the
evening and the sex when you get home should be hot
and passionate.
6.Talk sexily
The results of this one depend on how open-minded he
is, but most men do respond to some sexy words, ideas
and commands spoken by their loved ones.
How?
You know him best, so start cautiously if you
think he
may be shocked. Anything from sharing fantasies to
downright rude is included here, so expand your
vocabulary, get your imagination going and expect
miracles.
7.Get into oral sex
Many men love receiving oral sex, and the only thing
that can reduce their pleasure is if they think their
partner may not enjoy giving it. Remember, your
lover's pleasure can be one of the highlights of sex,
and this really is a two-way thing. If you show you
love oral sex, he'll enjoy it more and then you can
take pleasure in his enjoyment. However, if you do
feel uncomfortable about this (or any aspect of sex)
don't feel you have to take part - just tell him what
you would prefer and focus on what you do enjoy.
However, If you do like giving oral sex - great. All
you have to do is work on your technique to take him
to new levels of fulfilment. Try flicking your tongue
against the underside of his penis, especially the
ridge of skin behind the head (the prenulium) or using
it to circle the head of his penis. Vary the rhythm
and pressure of both your tongue and hand, and build
up gradually. Be teasing, gentle and attentive. Use
your other hand to reach for his testes, perineum,
buttocks and, if he likes it, his anus too. If you
haven't quite mastered the art of swallowing his
ejaculate, keep a tissue at hand just in case you need
it. It can be an acquired taste so do persevere. If
oral sex is not on your erotic agenda at the moment,
why not try thinking about it differently? Work out
what it is you prefer and go from there. If it's a
hygiene issue, suggest you take a bath together
beforehand. Some women feel disempowered by giving
oral sex, in which case you could try a different
position and/or focus on how you're actually making
him go weak at the knees. Include oral sex in your
fantasies, or try covering his penis with ice cream or
chocolate and licking it off. Do whatever you need to
do to make it as much of a treat for yourself as it is
for him. If you don't want him to ejaculate in your
mouth, then just let him come outside at first. The
next step is to get used to the taste by dipping your
finger into his semen and then sexily licking it off.
Once you're happy with this, suggest he come on your
lips or tongue and move on from there.
